Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is an effective couples therapy intervention but is also used to help with individual depression, anxiety, PTSD and to repair family bonds. EFT looks at patterns in the relationship and helps create a secure bond and develop more trust to move the relationship in a healthier and more positive direction.
Vivian Foley, MS, LMFT, C-EFT
Offering Adult Counseling (ages 18+)
Couples Counseling, Family Counseling, Individual Counseling, EFT, Addiction Counseling, Christian Counseling
OFFERING IN-PERSON THERAPY
Vivian Foley is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a Masters degree in Marriage and Family Therapy. She has over 30 years of working with individuals and families in the community and over 8 years of direct
counseling experience. Vivian’s greatest passion is helping couples and families to heal, reconcile, and strengthen their relationships. Vivian loves to work with couples who are facing immense challenges such as infidelity, betrayal, addiction, and doubt. She believes in each client’s ability to learn new patterns of connection to rebuild their relationships. Due to Vivian’s passion for helping people with their relationships, she has worked to
become certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy. She has additional training in Emotionally Focused Family Therapy and working with addiction. Vivian is also deeply interested in helping others understand and overcome
the impact of trauma in their lives. She enjoys helping people who are struggling with depression, anxiety, grief, trauma, and other mental health challenges that impact their lives and relationships. Vivian recognizes that spirituality can play a strong role in a person’s healing journey and welcomes the client’s direction in bringing spirituality into counseling.
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What to Expect
An EFT therapist observes the dynamics between clients in the therapy setting, ties this behavior to the dynamics in their home lives, and helps direct new conversations and interactions based on more honest feelings. To accomplish this, your therapist will encourage you to look at your current emotional issues and then help you discover feelings and emotions that you may not realize you have. You may discover deeper past feelings and vulnerabilities that are blocked by the more immediate emotions you display in your current relationship. You will learn to express these emotions in a way that will help you connect, rather than disconnect with your partner or family member. You will learn new ways to listen and stay attuned to another’s emotions and discover more productive ways to respond to emotional situations.
How It Works
EFT focuses on the present time to makes changes in the here and now. There are three steps, or stages, of EFT. The first is to de-escalate the couple’s or family member’s negative cycle of interactions, and help them see and understand what is happening in their relationship. Clients come to see that the problems lie in insecurities and distance. The next stage is to restructure interactions, wherein the therapist helps clients discuss their fears in the relationship, using language that doesn’t push the other away. Clients learn to turn toward each other and discuss their needs and they become more open and responsive to each other. Consolidation is the third stage of EFT, wherein the therapist helps clients see how they got into negative patterns and points out how they were able to change those patterns and can continue these types of conversations in the future.